Would you cut off your hair?

Would you cut off your hair?

What is one of the most treasured possessions for a woman?  Most would say their hair, or that the mere thought of losing it would give them the heebeegeebies.

Indya Harrison

Indya Harrison

Look at this young woman, isn’t she beautiful?  In my eyes I still see her as a girl, crazy right seeing that she is in her 20’s?

She is my lovely niece and I have known her for over 11 years.  Her name is Indya and she has predominantly been brought up in Barbados where a lot of her family originates from.

Because I live in the UK I have not seen her that often, but it has given me the opportunity to see the changes over long periods of time which are sometimes more distinct than when someone sees one regularly.

I would say Indya is a sweet loving girl, sorry I mean young woman.  Her heart is most definitely in the right place, she has a relatively sensible head on her shoulders and a sense of determination to head her a long the right path in life.

Life can seem so idyllic and carefree at this age and especially when surrounded by paradise.  However, Indya has had to learn some harsh lessons recently and that is suffering the loss of  loved ones, but not only that, the loss of, now two loved ones gripped by the gnarled cruel hand that infects so many lives, called ‘cancer’.

Evette and Indya

Evette and Indya

She lost her paternal Grandmother and now this year lost her beloved Aunty, Aunty Evette.

I lost my mother to cancer over 4 years ago, I still have not gotten over it, especially the shock of seeing how this disease takes hold of people aiming to strip them of all dignity and wrack their bodies in pain and suffering.  I sat by my mothers bedside as this happened, seeing it day in day out, like a living horror film.

I knew that we were going to go and visit Evette, she was in the latter stages of her illness, it was terminal and it was known that she would not last that much longer.  We went to her daughters house where she was staying, to effectively say our goodbyes.

Indya had travelled over from Barbados and was with us on that day.  One never gets used to this but at least I had some experience of it in its crudeness, but she didn’t.  I watched as her heart almost visibly broke in to pieces before me as she saw her Aunty, the once strong, statuesque handsome woman now so thin but bravely soldiering on with good spirits selfessly for all of our sakes.

I felt utterly helpless as Indya shed her tears next door to where her Aunty was, I can imagine what she must have been feeling but only conjecture as we are all different, but either way it has to of been wretched.

She then took the steps to be with her Aunty, to sit by her side, to wipe her mouth, to care for her, to spend time with someone she so loves within this precious time we all had left with her.

Deborah, one of Evette’s daughters brought her wedding forwards so that she could spend that pivotal moment in her life with her mother. It was not long after that we lost Evette, hopefully to a much better place, pain free.

Evette

Evette

Evette was a big hearted woman with an equally large personality to measure.  You would always know she was there in a room and always know that somewhere along the line she would take time to come and speak to you and most likely give you a laugh, if not least with her amazing smile.

One of the legacies left of her passing is that Indya still remains deeply affected not only by the loss of her Grandmother and Aunty but also to the effect that cancer has on people.  She now has been a deep burning desire to try and help in some way.

Imagine being a child, suffering the grips of cancer.  We all know that often one of the things it takes away is our precious hair.  Most little girls are princess’s in one way or another and I mean that in the good sense.  Loosing ones tresses amongst all the many other things must be just so deflating.  Looking in the mirror one cannot escape the grim reality of what is going on.

Indya would like to bring a smile to a child’s face.  To replace those locks in some way.  Researching she took time to find a charity that makes wigs out of human hair for children.  By cutting her own hair she hopes to raise enough money to provide many wigs for cancer suffering children, to bring a smile back, a little bit of happiness to some of their lives.

Today at Deborah’s local church, they are including Evette in their memorial service and it seemed fitting that though due to my horrible back issues I was unable to go that instead in some way I could commemorate her here online and hope that by doing this I can reach a wide audience that will help Indya raise money.

So with this I have linked this page to a few challenges:

random moments of delightRandom Moment of Delight: because today I got to provide lunch for Deborah and her husband.

Fiesta Friday badgeFiesta Friday: Though not a party really, like with my mother I would rather celebrate my mothers life than focus on the loss, however with things like trying to raise money, both stories have to be told.

NaBloPoMo_November

NaBloPoMo_November

NaBloPoMo:  Because this is my piece for today

Indya Harrison Just Giving

Indya Harrison Just Giving

Indyas Just Giving Donation Page:  Just Giving Indya Harrison

Indya  approached me a little while ago and asked me if I could help her by writing something on my blog to see if she could generate some interest in raising funds for her chosen cause.

I of course said yes, but asked her to write a few words too, of which I sense she was a little nervous, here is what she said:

Locks Of Love a fund raiser in support of children’s cancer.

My Name is Indya, British born brought up in Barbados! (or British born Barbadian by heart)

Unfortunately I have been faced with the loss of two of my close family members, my Great aunty

Evette and my lovely Grandma Enid plus my other beautiful Grandma Glo is thankfully a survivor, during

this time I felt so helpless, as there was no way I could take their suffering away from them, this reality

has pushed me in the direction of doing what I can, for who I can.

As many of you are saddened by the thought of a loved one being attacked by the distress cancer brings,

we cannot imagine the fear this would bring to a little boy or girl, this encouraged my decision to

support The Little Princess Trust.

This Charity aids in providing human hair wigs to little children who have lost their hair due to cancer

treatment. I believe this is the little I can do to help someone who cannot help themselves. I am raising

funds to donate To The Little Princess Trust and also I will be donating my hair to make wigs for kids on

April 10th, 2015 as this is my Grandma Enid’s Birthday.

Please help me as I try to put a smile on a little princess’s face!

So, it is now that I ask you please to click the link above or below to help Indya raise funds and put a smile on a child’s face.

Indyas Just Giving Donation Page:  Just Giving Indya Harrison

In loving memory of Evette Beckles

In loving memory of Evette Beckles

The Little Princess Trust

Thank you for reading, Justine xx

© Justine Nagaur, Eclecticoddsnsods.com

  43 comments for “Would you cut off your hair?

  1. November 2, 2014 at 9:00 PM

    Such a tragedy but Indya has come forward and found the strength to help others. Good for her and good for you in helping her to spread the word. Cancer can strike anyone without discrimination and when it does it’s devastating. I have lost family members and my Mom and sister are survivors.

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    • November 3, 2014 at 9:34 AM

      I am sorry to hear of your losses and yes it just changes ones life experiencing a loss in any fashion let alone in such a cruel way that cancer seems to give.

      Indya is a lovely brave girl i hope she hits her target on the donations and thank you for commenting xxx

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  2. November 2, 2014 at 9:20 PM

    A beautiful post and a very courageous young lady xxx

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    • November 3, 2014 at 9:35 AM

      yes she is and thank you 🙂 I hope she hits her target. xx

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  3. November 2, 2014 at 9:28 PM

    very inspiring post. What a wonderful niece you have, and what a great auntie you are to support her. Cancer has touched my life too in many ways and this post really resonated with me. Thank you.

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    • November 3, 2014 at 9:35 AM

      awe thank you to you for commenting. I told Indya she should read the comments on this blog and I am sure when she does it will really touch her to see the support she has got. I hope she reaches her target x

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  4. Michelle
    November 2, 2014 at 10:20 PM

    What a lovely girl you are. Your Grandma and Auntie must be immensely proud of you. I know I am proud of you and proud to call you family.

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  5. November 2, 2014 at 11:44 PM

    Thanks so much for sharing this inspiring post with us.Good on Indya for finding a positive and constructive way to work through her grief by helping others.

    My answer to the question posed here is no I will not cut off my hair this time but I have done so in the past.

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    • November 3, 2014 at 9:37 AM

      Thank you, I hope that this whole process will help her a lot and I really really hope she gets her target, I know that will bring her some comfort.

      I also told her to read the comments here I think she will find it very heart warming to do so, thank you for commenting, I hope you are well xx

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  6. November 3, 2014 at 1:03 AM

    What a loving family in good and sad times. I imagine all families have been affected by cancer, and it is very difficult the first time to see a loved one sonprofoundly chamged be the disease. We can only hope that eventually the research funds and efforts will be enough to stop the ravages and undeserved deaths. God Bless your niece in her endeavors.

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    • November 3, 2014 at 9:39 AM

      awe thank you sammy. I simply cannot understand how a cure has not been found by now, I have my horrible suspicions at times that is has..but thats another completely distorted way that my mind goes sometimes in paranoid moments that there is some underhand scheme going on to fund something else that would lose money shoudl there be a cure…bleh best not for me to get on to that subject matter as you can tell. I hope this whole process helps Indya to come to terms with her loss and I hope she reaches target xx

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      • November 3, 2014 at 2:57 PM

        Wow I never thought of that, but i wouldn’t pooh pooh your suspicions because greed prevails where we think it wouldn’t. Will continue to keep your family in our prayers.

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        • November 3, 2014 at 3:55 PM

          thank you well i am glad you don’t think me totally insane for thinking that and thank you muchly for your prayers, big hugs to you my sweet friend x

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      • November 6, 2014 at 9:26 AM

        Hey Justine- what a lovely post. Re the cancer research funding: I fear it is a case of right place; right time. Sadly, my mother wasn’t lucky enough either and she died far too young. Xxxxx

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        • November 6, 2014 at 3:18 PM

          i am so sorry to hear that, its bad enough as it is but when it catches people young also so tragic. Thank you for coming by, hope to chat again, your words mean a lot xx

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  7. November 3, 2014 at 2:06 AM

    Locks of Love is one of my favorite charities. I was blessed with perfect and fast growing hair, so since I was 25 or so I’ve been growing it out (2 years or so) and cutting it off for LoL. I give 15-18 inches every time, and it’s such an easy thing to do. TAKE THE CHALLENGE! Cut it off!!!

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    • November 3, 2014 at 9:39 AM

      oh thats amazing, good on you I think that is fabulous. I hope she reaches her target, I donated and hope a few others will too, thank you for commenting it is inspiring to hear what people have done to help x

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  8. November 3, 2014 at 3:21 AM

    What a beautiful post, Justine. Cancer is a horrible, horrible disease. I saw what it did to my uncle and it’s hard for me to wrap my mind around it all. Big hugs. ❤

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    • November 3, 2014 at 9:40 AM

      yes it is very hard to get ones head around the suffering that cancer causes, and sorry to hear of your loss.

      I think this will be good for Indya and many others, especially if she hits her target. I told her to make sure she reads all the lovely heart warming comments here x

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  9. November 3, 2014 at 3:39 AM

    It’s great post Justine. I’m happy that people like and Indya exist. Thanks a lot for this.

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    • November 3, 2014 at 9:40 AM

      thank you, she will be most chuffed to hear that x

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  10. November 3, 2014 at 3:53 AM

    this is such amazing, painful story. Your post bring a wake up call!

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    • November 3, 2014 at 9:41 AM

      ah yes its good to have a reality check sometimes because real life can be hard….thank you for commenting, big hugs x

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  11. November 3, 2014 at 8:52 AM

    I wish cancer and other illness are like mosquitoes – you can just kill them with electric something or slap them with your both hands. Such a lovely post, Justine. Hugs!

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    • November 3, 2014 at 9:41 AM

      yes that would be so good wouldn’t it, i find it shocking that after all these years a cure has not been found, in fact dumbfounding, but there you go, we do what we can do to try and help and i think this will help indya and others a lot xx

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  12. November 3, 2014 at 3:41 PM

    Heart-touching story, Justine.. 😦 its really horrible disease.. Hugs!

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    • November 3, 2014 at 3:55 PM

      it is your right and thank you for reading and commenting means a lot to me and indya to get some feedback here x

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  13. November 3, 2014 at 9:36 PM

    Thank you all for your beautiful words of support. It is a reality that too many of us are facing and I just hope more people will join the band wagon and help those suffering as every little bit helps.
    Best wishes to you all
    Indya x.

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    • November 4, 2014 at 2:16 AM

      Best wishes to you, Indya, with your charity. What a lovely young lady you are, both inside and outside. I applaud you for bringing awareness to this horrible disease and for finding ways to show support to those affected by it, especially those little ones. You are to be commended. Both you and Justine! ❤️

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      • November 4, 2014 at 4:03 PM

        awe thank you angie, lovelyt hing to say, i just hope she reaches her target and that some smiles are brought to some little ones faces 🙂 hugs x

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  14. November 4, 2014 at 2:35 AM

    Such a touching post, Justine. You have a heart of gold and it shows here. You’ve written a wonderful tribute for Aunty Evette and helped Indya’s cause tremendously. Love and hugs to you both! ❤️

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  15. November 4, 2014 at 9:29 PM

    Such a beautiful and inspiring post, Justine. Indya is such a strong young woman to decide such thing. We all experience the horror of cancer. My grandmother is a survivor and my aunt and my mom’s best friend are still being treated. Sometimes we think it is finally coming to an end but then it gets worse again.
    It is so nice of you to support Indya like that. I hope she reaches her target
    Xxx

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    • November 5, 2014 at 12:07 PM

      yes its the yo yo and the psychological effects to all especially those suffering when they go in to remission and hoping with all their might that they will get better, it takes its toll and snatches time from all and our loved ones x

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  16. November 5, 2014 at 8:31 AM

    A beautifully touching post. Good luck Indya with your fundraising, I hope you reach your target. My goddaughter had lovely long hair that she had cut last year and she asked to do donate her hair to The Princess Trust. It takes a loving person to do what Indya is doing. Very well done!

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    • November 5, 2014 at 12:14 PM

      oh thats lovely that she did that and yes I hope she reaches her target too but she is also sooooo happy and warmed from all the amazing comments here on the blog from wonderful bloggers like you x

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  17. November 7, 2014 at 6:56 PM

    Reblogged this on A WriMo's Journey into Her Imagination and commented:
    Cancer is a horrible thing. I lost my mom (my best friend in the world) to colon cancer, and a very good friend of mine to brain cancer. If you can’t donate yourself (either funds or hair), then at least pass this along to others. Blessings to all who are suffering from ‘The Big C’, but those with the disease, but their friends and families as well.

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    • November 7, 2014 at 7:07 PM

      Cancer is a horrible thing. I lost my mom (my best friend in the world) to colon cancer, and a very good friend of mine to brain cancer. If you can’t donate yourself (either funds or hair), then at least pass this along to others. Blessings to all who are suffering from ‘The Big C’, but not just those with the disease, but their friends and families as well.

      Edit: I didn’t realize I’d left out a couple of words when I posted.
      Also, my sister is a survivor.

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      • November 8, 2014 at 3:40 PM

        thank you so much for the re-blog and shouting out about it, really means a lot to me and Indya xx

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