Would you cut off your hair?
What is one of the most treasured possessions for a woman? Most would say their hair, or that the mere thought of losing it would give them the heebeegeebies.
Look at this young woman, isn’t she beautiful? In my eyes I still see her as a girl, crazy right seeing that she is in her 20’s?
She is my lovely niece and I have known her for over 11 years. Her name is Indya and she has predominantly been brought up in Barbados where a lot of her family originates from.
Because I live in the UK I have not seen her that often, but it has given me the opportunity to see the changes over long periods of time which are sometimes more distinct than when someone sees one regularly.
I would say Indya is a sweet loving girl, sorry I mean young woman. Her heart is most definitely in the right place, she has a relatively sensible head on her shoulders and a sense of determination to head her a long the right path in life.
Life can seem so idyllic and carefree at this age and especially when surrounded by paradise. However, Indya has had to learn some harsh lessons recently and that is suffering the loss of loved ones, but not only that, the loss of, now two loved ones gripped by the gnarled cruel hand that infects so many lives, called ‘cancer’.
She lost her paternal Grandmother and now this year lost her beloved Aunty, Aunty Evette.
I lost my mother to cancer over 4 years ago, I still have not gotten over it, especially the shock of seeing how this disease takes hold of people aiming to strip them of all dignity and wrack their bodies in pain and suffering. I sat by my mothers bedside as this happened, seeing it day in day out, like a living horror film.
I knew that we were going to go and visit Evette, she was in the latter stages of her illness, it was terminal and it was known that she would not last that much longer. We went to her daughters house where she was staying, to effectively say our goodbyes.
Indya had travelled over from Barbados and was with us on that day. One never gets used to this but at least I had some experience of it in its crudeness, but she didn’t. I watched as her heart almost visibly broke in to pieces before me as she saw her Aunty, the once strong, statuesque handsome woman now so thin but bravely soldiering on with good spirits selfessly for all of our sakes.
I felt utterly helpless as Indya shed her tears next door to where her Aunty was, I can imagine what she must have been feeling but only conjecture as we are all different, but either way it has to of been wretched.
She then took the steps to be with her Aunty, to sit by her side, to wipe her mouth, to care for her, to spend time with someone she so loves within this precious time we all had left with her.
Deborah, one of Evette’s daughters brought her wedding forwards so that she could spend that pivotal moment in her life with her mother. It was not long after that we lost Evette, hopefully to a much better place, pain free.
Evette was a big hearted woman with an equally large personality to measure. You would always know she was there in a room and always know that somewhere along the line she would take time to come and speak to you and most likely give you a laugh, if not least with her amazing smile.
One of the legacies left of her passing is that Indya still remains deeply affected not only by the loss of her Grandmother and Aunty but also to the effect that cancer has on people. She now has been a deep burning desire to try and help in some way.
Imagine being a child, suffering the grips of cancer. We all know that often one of the things it takes away is our precious hair. Most little girls are princess’s in one way or another and I mean that in the good sense. Loosing ones tresses amongst all the many other things must be just so deflating. Looking in the mirror one cannot escape the grim reality of what is going on.
Indya would like to bring a smile to a child’s face. To replace those locks in some way. Researching she took time to find a charity that makes wigs out of human hair for children. By cutting her own hair she hopes to raise enough money to provide many wigs for cancer suffering children, to bring a smile back, a little bit of happiness to some of their lives.
Today at Deborah’s local church, they are including Evette in their memorial service and it seemed fitting that though due to my horrible back issues I was unable to go that instead in some way I could commemorate her here online and hope that by doing this I can reach a wide audience that will help Indya raise money.
So with this I have linked this page to a few challenges:
Random Moment of Delight: because today I got to provide lunch for Deborah and her husband.
Fiesta Friday: Though not a party really, like with my mother I would rather celebrate my mothers life than focus on the loss, however with things like trying to raise money, both stories have to be told.
NaBloPoMo: Because this is my piece for today
Indyas Just Giving Donation Page: Just Giving Indya Harrison
Indya approached me a little while ago and asked me if I could help her by writing something on my blog to see if she could generate some interest in raising funds for her chosen cause.
I of course said yes, but asked her to write a few words too, of which I sense she was a little nervous, here is what she said:
Locks Of Love a fund raiser in support of children’s cancer.
My Name is Indya, British born brought up in Barbados! (or British born Barbadian by heart)
Unfortunately I have been faced with the loss of two of my close family members, my Great aunty
Evette and my lovely Grandma Enid plus my other beautiful Grandma Glo is thankfully a survivor, during
this time I felt so helpless, as there was no way I could take their suffering away from them, this reality
has pushed me in the direction of doing what I can, for who I can.
As many of you are saddened by the thought of a loved one being attacked by the distress cancer brings,
we cannot imagine the fear this would bring to a little boy or girl, this encouraged my decision to
support The Little Princess Trust.
This Charity aids in providing human hair wigs to little children who have lost their hair due to cancer
treatment. I believe this is the little I can do to help someone who cannot help themselves. I am raising
funds to donate To The Little Princess Trust and also I will be donating my hair to make wigs for kids on
April 10th, 2015 as this is my Grandma Enid’s Birthday.
Please help me as I try to put a smile on a little princess’s face!
So, it is now that I ask you please to click the link above or below to help Indya raise funds and put a smile on a child’s face.
Indyas Just Giving Donation Page: Just Giving Indya Harrison
Thank you for reading, Justine xx
© Justine Nagaur, Eclecticoddsnsods.com