Eclectic Corner #3 Resolutions

Eclectic Corner #3 Resolutions

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Today’s Eclectic Corner #3  is again something different.  The idea being that fortnightly I rotate different genres to give everyone who has different passions the opportunity to indulge at any one time.

I would also like to give a huge thanks to all of you who took the brave plunge to embrace the Eclectic Corner #2 Decadence Event, I was stunned by the variety of entries and artistry in both photography and words.  You can still pop by to see the entrants via the InLinkz page here: Decadence InLinkz Page

This week I have focused on the word “Resolution(s)” which seems apt for this time of the year.


Religious origins of New Year’s Resolution

  • The ancient Babylonians made promises to their gods at the start of each year that they would return borrowed objects and pay their debts.
  • The Romans began each year by making promises to the god Janus,  for whom the month of January is named.
  • In the Medieval era, the knights took the “peacock vow” at the end of the Christmas season each year to re-affirm their commitment to chivalry.
  • At watchnight services, many Christians prepare for the year ahead by praying and making these resolutions.
  • A religious parallel is during Judaism’s New Year, Rosh Hashanah, through the High Holidays and culminating in Yom Kippur (the Day of Atonement), one is to reflect upon one’s wrongdoings over the year and both seek and offer forgiveness. People may act similarly during the Catholic fasting period of Lent, though the motive behind this holiday is more of sacrifice than of responsibility, in fact the practice of New Year’s resolutions partially came from the Lenten sacrifices. The concept, regardless of creed, is to reflect upon self improvement annually.


I would like to invite you to work with the word Resolution(s) even if you do not participate in taking on a New Year’s Resolution for yourself, perhaps it has some meaning to you, or you might have an opinion about it even if you find it a negative rather than positive experience, which I know some people do.

This weeks challenge I would like to engage you in the following:

  1. Please tell us what your Resolution(s) are, just one or two words, ie lose weight, be happier etc etc as your title.
  2. For the photographer in you, working with the word(s) you have chosen above and the word Resolution(s), please shoot a picture that captures all of this in your mind and will visualize this to others.
  3. Optional Extrafor the writer in you, I would  like to invite you to elaborate on your choice of Resolution(s).  A personal reflection or development in why you made that choice(s), what it means to you, how you aim to accomplish it, a story behind it.  Anything that gives more depth and something personal that we as readers would love as an insight in to your plans for improvement in the year ahead.

Personally I am really excited to see what changes people wish to make in their lives or in their world around them.

Please find below my entry for this week.



Written also for Writing 201: Longform Personal Reflections

My resolution is:


Eclectic Corner #3 Personal Development

Eclectic Corner #3 Personal Development

This photograph was taken with a camera phone and edited in Photoscape.  It was already blurry, giving the real indication that that moment in time was hectic, crowded and fast paced and it really was, I was in Leicester Square, totally overdoing it and not listening to my body, milling amongst the crowds, living the fast paced life.  I played with the luminescence then added a fake, tilt, shift (never known what that is, just like the effects) and made it black and white with another little play with shading.

 Optional Extra – Why Pacing?

In this modern fast paced world it is easy to get swept away with the frenetic speed that life seems to exist at. I have always been a doer, sitting on the sidelines and watching people amble along used to send me insane.  I would be a bish, bang, bong person, my motto was “if you want to get something done, do it yourself.”

Three or so years ago, life took on a dramatic change for me, most of you will know about this, but to cut it short, my back went and three times, I ended up being bedridden for months on end and unable to walk.  I also ended up being medicated, at one stage on 20+ tablets a day, this takes it’s toll on your body.

Inbetween these bouts of being in bed and spinal injections, I had to rehabilitate, if anyone has had to do this, it is normally a very slow process.  Being in bed was hard, I have two young children and if affected them deeply, still does in fact and having not been in the area long, it affected me in multiple ways, even on a friendship level, having not established deep rooted connections.

As such it also became quite an isolating experience.

There was a huge amount of fear attached to moving, because my muscles would go in to spasm which I can only describe as feeling like someone ripping my muscles apart.  It also felt like I had woken up from being hit by something all over.

So bit by bit I would go downstairs for small periods, do small things around the house, then venture eventually outside.  My challenge was to get to the letterbox at the bottom of the road, that I photographed the other day in my Messenger of Christmas Tidings post.

This I all achieved, slowly two or three times, then had set-backs and ended up back in bed.  I don’t want that to happen again, though I know some of it is out of my control, some of it is not.

Pacing is a huge part of a lot of people’s recovery, to learn not to take on too much, not to be a doer, to stop, reflect on what ‘really’ needs to be done.  To listen to one’s body, just because you feel good one day, don’t go overboard, because normally one will pay the next day.

I have done this time and time again.  I am also an enthusiastic person, so I get swept away with the moment, I forget that I have responsibilities, as in being responsible for taking charge of my body, because now I have to.  My body will stop me in a far more severe way if I don’t listen and just stop myself.

So, I need to work out my pacing, commit to it and practise it.

With this Resolution, I am also reading a Mindfulness book.  Some of you will know this already if you read It’s a Lonely Place (which chronicles some of my chronic pain issues).  I am finding this reading material amazing so far.  At chapter four, one starts an 8 week course of Mindfulness and after 8 weeks, I am booked to go to St Georges Hospital for a 3 week Pain Management Course.

Woohoo I have actually planned something correctly for a change.  So, I ‘need’ to stick to this and hope by the end of it all in a three months time, my personal development of managing my pain will be more improved.

I have come on leaps and bounds from three years ago, but one also has to learn to be grateful and having the chronic pain has forced me to slow down and with this has come some benefits.

When you think your’e not going to get to see the outside again, something marvellous happens.  Well it did for me.  My appreciation of Mother Nature became exhilarating and unexpected, such a surprise.  I would walk out and see and marvel at things I never noticed before, this is still with me, a blessing I think.

The thing is, one doesn’t have to have an illness to slow down, we all could do with slowing down a bit and actually being ‘present’ in our lives rather than being a passenger that just gets swept along day by day.

That is my Resolution!

© Justine Nagaur


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  81 comments for “Eclectic Corner #3 Resolutions

  1. December 30, 2014 at 4:27 PM

    It is hard to pace yourself when you’re used to going a certain speed no matter what the speed is.

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    • December 30, 2014 at 4:52 PM

      Exactly and especially hard when you have to see things pile up around you in a complete mess and disorganized shambles, its not like my boys or husband would step in on that front….so yes, mega frustrating…patience has had to be learn’t too hehe xx


      • December 30, 2014 at 5:29 PM

        Aye. The first time I was able to do the laundry after my foot surgery, my family rejoiced. My sister called out to the whole house, “Martha’s doing the laundry! Martha’s doing the laundry! We’ll finally have clothes again!”

        It was hilarious. And accurate. I love my family, but keeping the house clean is not as high on their list of priorities as it is on mine. Which would explain why I’m in charge of housework and they aren’t.

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        • December 30, 2014 at 5:48 PM

          haha i can just imagine that, martha is really such a lovely name, so gentle and classic! Sorry I got sidetracked there hehe x


    • December 30, 2014 at 5:47 PM

      Coming to join me for some resolutions? grins

      Justine xx


  2. December 30, 2014 at 4:39 PM

    What an accomplishment coupled with strong determination and positive attitude. Kudos Justine!

    I might join the ‘pacing’ if I can come up with a post worthy of sharing 🙂 Till then.

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    • December 30, 2014 at 4:55 PM

      oh anything is always worth sharing i would be delighted if you did as and when and if you are ready 🙂 Yes pacing a big challenge, some moments easier than others, thank you for your kind and lovely words xx

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  3. December 30, 2014 at 6:10 PM

    Hi Justine!
    I think you’re a very inspiring person! You’ve already come so far and I know you’ll improve your pacing.
    If you just believe in yourself, anything is possible 😀
    My resolution is to not make resolutions because I know I can’t keep them xD

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    • December 30, 2014 at 6:41 PM

      awe thank you for such lovely words 🙂 I knwo many people don’t like them, because they feel like that, but still post worthy….grins..a post on why one doesn’t make resolutions and perhaps why one feels one cant stick to them and whether one needs to make improvements…oh i am nearly making a post for myself but that would contradict my first!

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  4. December 30, 2014 at 6:33 PM

    Cor, that was another mammoth post on my part lol xx

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  5. December 30, 2014 at 7:22 PM

    May also take two shots at this. Instead of making resolutions, I have been taking action to change my life…and am very happy in doing so…more to follow.

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  6. December 30, 2014 at 7:57 PM
    • December 31, 2014 at 6:49 PM

      I saw it! Fab photo made me shivver all over lol. Thank you for joining Eclectic Corner #3 and I hear there maybe more resolution installments woohoo… considering how dangerous to drive whilst in a snow blizzard and blogging!!!! crazy man Happy New Year xx

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      • December 31, 2014 at 7:03 PM

        Another coming soon. And the danger was more than worth it…

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        • December 31, 2014 at 7:09 PM

          hah i bet, but had you crashed you would have been in trouble though you might not have known it!!!!! Glad your safe all the same…next time hopefully it wont be snowing…looking forward to the next resolution xxx

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  7. December 31, 2014 at 3:46 AM

    What a beautiful description of the word Resolution and what it means to you! I also love the pace yourself which is so so important but most of all I love you excitement for the future and sharing all of the oddsnsods that make you unique! Happy 2015 to you sweet Justine! 😄💗💜big blessings to you!

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    • December 31, 2014 at 6:58 PM

      awe thank you and a Happy new Year to you also, i hope things get better and healthier all around and that you manage to have a lovely time tonight and a fab year ahead.

      Big huggles xxx


      • December 31, 2014 at 7:12 PM

        Yay! I plan to first go to the gym! LOL Well maybe! Ya! Then do nothing! I always spend New Year’s Eve alone. I like it. My girl will go with her boy friend and that is a good sign she is feeling better.
        Blessing to you in 2015! (✿◠‿◠✿)MichelleMarie


        • January 1, 2015 at 3:43 PM

          gym sounds good, you could do some for me hehe….did you have a nice time? xx


      • December 31, 2014 at 7:13 PM

        XXXX big hugs and love to you! I hit send before I sent huge and I love your huggles

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  8. December 31, 2014 at 11:37 AM

    What a great read Justine. I love the way you describe Resolution. As you already know that I don’t keep any resolution, however, your post wants me to rethink on my decision 😉
    Totally agree with you here, “We all could do with slowing down a bit and actually being ‘present’ in our lives rather than being a passenger that just gets swept along day by day.”
    Thank you for this great read dear 🙂

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    • December 31, 2014 at 7:04 PM

      oh wow well that is truly a compliment if i have made you re-think it, i shall wait with anticipation to see what you decide in the end 😀

      Yes, slowing down for all is so important, as life is so precious xxx Happy New Year to you and all dear xx

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  9. J
    January 2, 2015 at 7:13 AM

    So sorry about your back issues — that’s awful! I’m glad you’re recovering — but yes — remember that pacing and don’t take on too much at one time. You may not realize it, but I’m an amputee so learning to walk again took a lot of patience and pacing too. Learning to accept help was another issue. Takes time.

    Here’s to a great 2015 for you and your family — one in which you’re fully healed and pain free!

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    • January 2, 2015 at 4:08 PM

      Thank you and thank you for letting me in something personal to you, I didn’t realize and take my hat off to you for the determination you must have and most likely still do have. I think I can accept help, for me it’s more the lack of offers, but that’s probably mainly due to having just moved area when it happened, but still when your in a school environment with kids you expect the parents to pitch in which they didn’t really. Having things like this opens your eyes and teaches you a lot. I was very resentful to begin with about all of it, but now I just let it go over my head and get on with things myself and this allows me to look in different areas or just find friendships that are more meaningful from the people that I might connect with better in the first place 😉 I am learning mindfulness at the moment, read a few chapters of a book and started the course today which is 8 weeks, its going well so far, cross fingers! big hugs xxx


      • J
        January 2, 2015 at 10:55 PM

        I can understand that resentment — the offers of help came in for a long time — but after a year they stop coming for the most part and people expect that you’ve moved on and all is better. The people who DO still help act like I’m “broken” and that is SO painful.

        Well, it sounds like you’re well on your way to meeting those resolutions — so my hat is off to YOU for YOUR determination!

        Hugs to you too –

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        • January 3, 2015 at 1:54 PM

          yes crickey being treated like your broken is terrible, or you get sympathy looks, a pat on the back etc. I feel like I shouldn’t moan, but it seems to be the only thing most peole want to talk about when I go out and I hate it because i don’t get out much lol, the last thing I want to talk about when trying to enjoy myself is my back and pain issues, but then I suppose if they ask it shows they care right? Double edged sword x


          • J
            January 4, 2015 at 1:03 AM

            Exactly. It’s like, “be careful what you ask for”. There has to be some sort of BALANCE. Enough questions/concerns to show they care — but not so much that you feel broken.

            AND – you’ll find people STARING too. I’d much rather deal with a kid who has the “cojones” to come up to me and say, “what happened to your leg” — than deal with someone who stares, catches himself staring, then purposefully tunes me out like I’m invisible lest he stare. Know what I mean? At least with the inquisitive ones you can answer the question and move on. And it’s a great experience for them — I show them the leg, show them the battery and the red light, tell them how it works — and they’re satisfied. And the next time around they probably won’t be as tempted to stare – I’ve become a PERSON and not a “broken weirdo”.

            If that makes sense.

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            • January 4, 2015 at 10:08 AM

              I think it depends on the situation I am in, but yes sometimes my mouth opens before I engage my brain lol, like when I had my nose pierced, the lady who did it, who I had not met before had everything done to her, she was wow, gave me quite a surprise. She had facial scarification with tattooing over it, it was like a lightening bolt with red to define it, plus she had a shaved head with small bits of blond hair coming down the sides infront of her ears and well loads of piercings. I did walk in and I actually said “WOW oh my, WOW” lolol…she just laughed. I did then ask her about her scarification, I know its not quite the same lol! I prefer curiosity without the pity like you say xxx


              • J
                January 5, 2015 at 1:31 AM

                Wow … I might have chickened out after seeing that lady!

                But yes — curiosity is so much easier to deal with. You can cope with it, deal with it, and move on. But the pity and avoidance just sets my hackles up. o.O

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                • January 5, 2015 at 3:14 PM

                  its like my kids they tend to just say it. My eldest is a bit more tactful though lol x


                  • J
                    January 6, 2015 at 3:04 AM

                    Yes, they learn … eventually … and sometimes the hard way! o.O

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            • January 4, 2015 at 10:10 AM

              My worst one i think, because my situation is a bit different from yours, I am undiagnosed with the pain, as in the initial cause but it has been going on so long it is a condition in itself, ie I am diagnosed as having chronic pain. But people ask me and seem to get incredibly annoyed and frustrated and take this out in the conversation with me, I am the one that should be annoyed and frustrated lol, then they ask how “can” I not be improved or better and why dont i have surgery? lol, thing is there is nothing to operate on…so…I guess one has to take in to consideration if you havn’t experienced it you don’t know what it’s like xxx


              • J
                January 4, 2015 at 7:30 PM

                Sounds familiar. Another blogger has chronic pain – family figures she should be better by now and it all has to be in her head….

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                • January 4, 2015 at 8:03 PM

                  Yes ive had the its in your head look, not good 😦 it would be great to meet other people locally who have similar things going on but cp groups are far and few between x


                  • J
                    January 4, 2015 at 8:04 PM

                    I bet. The stigma… Plus if you’re in pain travel cant be a good thing. Used to drive my phantom pains nuts.

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                    • January 5, 2015 at 2:59 PM

                      I really miss travelling. I can just about be a passenger for a certain amount of time, but driving sets me off. I try not to think about not being able to fly again, that makes me feel terribly sad..maybe one day..and going on a boat, well after watching the titanic thats a no no for me lolol x


                    • J
                      January 6, 2015 at 3:06 AM

                      I’ve never been on a ship, sadly. Some day!
                      Driving is TERRIBLE for me. Driving OR riding. All that pressure from the prosthetic hitting the back of the leg — terrible phantom pains later on. And aches in the car. Flying would never, ever work. 😦

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                    • January 6, 2015 at 9:48 AM

                      ah youre like me then, the sitting, car, flying etc, it makes me feel claustrophobic that i might enver get to see another country again. I should be grateful for being on such a wonderful Island, being the UK, but I would liek to go and visit relatives and sit on a hot tropical beach again and travel through India or something, wow, thats a dream x


                    • J
                      January 6, 2015 at 1:03 PM

                      So many great places… Ah well…it is what it is , right?

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                    • January 6, 2015 at 3:11 PM

                      exactly, we live and learn, wow the language is so full of those expressions lol x

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  10. January 4, 2015 at 4:09 PM

    Tagged and categoried this one for this challenge, another resolution acted on?

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    • January 4, 2015 at 6:07 PM

      oh now this shoudl definitely be in the resolutions, so thank you very much very apt and appropriate, i know you mentioned a series, so shall i be seeing a 3 sometime soon? lol xx

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    • January 4, 2015 at 6:07 PM

      oh very approprpiate for the resolutions, thank you 🙂 shall i be seeing a number 3 for this too? grins


  11. anujakokrady
    January 5, 2015 at 6:56 AM

    I am super late in my entry… but i finally wrote something! 😀

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    • January 5, 2015 at 3:17 PM

      yay I saw it and loved it, thank you so much for joining Eclectic Corner, you wrote a fab post, commented there too 🙂 xxx

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      • January 5, 2015 at 4:52 PM

        I absolutely love this challange series of yours. The timeline comfort and the diversity of topics is amazing! Thank you so much for organizing this.

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        • January 5, 2015 at 6:17 PM

          awe thank you for saying such a lovely thing. one does wonder when you start out but I just tried to think of diverse things that everybody could join in on 🙂 That really made me smile. The tea time blog hop is out tomorrow if you have something, anything, even a photo to bring ot it, you would be warmly welcomed xxx

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          • January 6, 2015 at 6:59 AM

            Perfect! looks like my kinda thing!! will definitely check it out!! 🙂

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