Quotes and Anais Nin Part 3

Quotes and Anais Nin Part 3

So far I have written a Part 1 & 2 on Anais Nin, both of which you can find here:

Anais Nin Part 1

Anais Nin Part 2

In Part 1 I wrote a little about Anais Nin’s start in life, Part 2 we got to the part where she left Paris in 1939 and Guiler her husband seems to disappear from her diaries,  please find below a continuation:

Anais Nin

Anais Nin

A little about her personal life

We go back to Paris and according to Vol.1 in her diaries 1931- 1934 she shared what would be called a rather bohemian lifestyle with Henry Miller.  This is where Guiler, her husband stops being mentioned, during the 1930’s (Vol, 1-2)  However, it is suggested that she is still married and her husband wished to no longer be included as a part in her diaries.

Her second husband edited her diaries after her death and it becomes clear that her union with Henry Miller was very passionate and physical.  There was some suggestion that she got pregnant by him, of which she terminated during 1934.

She seemed to lead quite a wild life and in 1947 at the age of 44 (not far off my age, my life not quite so wild!!!) the met former actor Rupert Pole, 16 years her junior, in an elevator in Manhattan on her way to a party.  The two ended up dating then living in California together.

Scandalously on March 17th, 1955 whilst still married to Guiler she ended up marrying Pole at Quartzsite, Arizona, returning to live with him in California, whilst Guiler remained in New York unaware of his wife’s second marriage.  He remained unaware until after her death in 1977, though there is some scepticism as to whether he did or did not know, the biographer  Deirdre Bair alleging he did but consciously chose to ‘not know’.

Nin referred to her simultaneous marriages as her “bicoastal trapeze”.  According to Deidre Bair.

I will continue with the more of her elaborate life, marriages and adventures next time.

It is a pleasure to be able to share another quote with you, this one is one of my favourites.  I feel spoilt for choice with Anais’s quotes as I love so many. This I believe a quote one can debate about for ages upon, the simple nuances and complexities of the relationships between men and women.

I, with a deeper instinct, choose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands on me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman. – Anais Nin

Cardinal Guzman - such fine music awaits

Cardinal Guzman – such fine music awaits

This wonderful photograph which I think depicts the quote so well was kindly loaned to me from the funky edgy photographer Cardinal Guzman, so I say a big thank you to him and make sure you pop by his blog to have a visual treat – Cardinal Guzman’s blog

What the quote means to me

I think this is the kind of quote one could depict in so many ways.  But I guess I should write what it loosely means to me, because even I myself can get confused and swayed when I think too much about these words.  To me it relates not to labels of feminism, Dominance, submission or anything one cares to label the relationship between men and women as at times.  It relates in my mind to the relationship between men and women when stripped back to basics, to it’s core, the instinctual way a man and woman would be with each other without the modern trappings that sway and distort what can be such a wonderful union, clouded at times by modern day policy.

I think it’s about wanting a man who can ‘see’ and ‘know’ a woman, his woman with all her strengths, know her abilities, to know her that well and this includes her sexuality.  To admire her passion, her skills, her abilities, to expect her to do what she needs to do, but at the same time to be a man that can still when the time is right, take her in his arms and protect her, look after her.  It is to me not one or the other, it is a symbiotic relationship that should be able to fit in all the beautiful facets possible within a relationship.

How do you interpret this quote for yourself?

I look forward to reading your comments, Part 4 will be next week…

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  15 comments for “Quotes and Anais Nin Part 3

  1. January 9, 2015 at 9:36 AM

    Thank you very much from a “funky edgy photographer”! 😀
    (I love that description).

    Liked by 1 person

    • January 9, 2015 at 9:42 AM

      Hah a pleasure its true!!! 🙂 any thoughts on the quote? X


      • January 9, 2015 at 10:10 AM

        I think it’s a beautiful quote that suits the photo.

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        • January 9, 2015 at 12:23 PM

          you know your photo sprang to mind as soon as i knew i would use this quote x


    • January 9, 2015 at 9:42 AM

      Ps thank you for the loan x


  2. January 9, 2015 at 2:31 PM

    Perfect choice for pairing with the quote! Have a lovely weekend Justine ~

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  3. January 9, 2015 at 2:39 PM

    Fascinating I really want to read more about Anais Nin, she sounds like a woman ahead of her time. Lovely photograph, beautiful.

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    • January 9, 2015 at 5:33 PM

      yes she was quite diverse, i will posting more on her and i have some video clips too, to share hehe. Glad your enjoying it xx


  4. January 9, 2015 at 3:20 PM

    What a well-written and thought out post. I am enjoying this series immensely. It occurred to me during her trapeze bicoastal years that she was consciously double-coupling while her first husband was consciously denying. Oh, the many ways we deceive ourselves and others!

    I agree with your interpretation of the quote. Relationships that thrive do so not necessarily because power/strength is evenly divided or calculated, but because when one falters or can’t carry his/her weight, the other steps in to pick up the slack. Power and strength flow consciously between partners in healthy relationships without the need to ‘keep score’.

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    • January 9, 2015 at 5:35 PM

      oooh wow you said that perfectly Sammy what a beautiful way you did too, you always ‘get’ what I am trying to say.

      Anais was a very diverse character, i love her quotes and am really enjoying re-aquainting myself with her through writing these posts and doubly glad you are enjoying it also xxx

      How are you now that the festivities are over?


      • January 9, 2015 at 6:23 PM

        Thank you, Justine! It is nice when readers understand what you are thinking or feeling, isn’t it?

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